Flirting is fun so don’t take it too seriously.
Most of the time, you’ll just flirt with someone for a short time and then maybe never talk to them again. If you always go in to flirting expecting to date or even marry the person you’re flirting with, you’re going to be very disappointed–and you’ll probably seem a little desperate. Remember, you’re just flirting.
A woman will flirt with anybody in the world as long as other people are looking on. All women flirt, but some are restrained by shyness, and others by sense. Women flirt to keep their stock high, men to get somewhere. Women know what flirting is, and they react differently to flirting communication than they do to social communication. If you understand flirting, you can have conversations with the opposite sex and have them feeling attracted to you.
If you don’t get flirting and how it works, then you will either have to become famous or be absolutely loaded to be successful with girls.
Learn how to flirt well, then do this from the start in your interactions with women to start the correct tone. Think of flirting like that of playing a game.
If you start talking to a single girl and say «Hi, you’re nice. You probably have a fella, right?» in a normal tone of voice, you’re not flirting. On the other hand, if you say «Hi, I realize that you’re probably very shy due to the fact you get no attention from men… so I thought I’d come over here and pay you some attention…» it’s obvious that you’re not being serious. This is flirting.
Flirting is not simply telling a girl jokes, or trying to be «cute».
One of the concepts is «Cocky yet Funny» which is simply an excellent way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humour. If you know how to speak the right way, women will respond to you from the beginning with sexual interest and attraction. When you know how to incorporate flirting in a «Cocky yet Funny» way, a form of adult verbal play, then you reach into a woman’s mind, and cause her to go into a type of emotional state. One of the keys to effective flirting is to «get it». In other words, you have to actually practice so you get a «feel» for how it works.
A lot of men give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying «No thanks.» Instead of just continuing to practice more they take it personally and decide to throw in the towel. But once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of adult play you will not believe how well women respond to you. Here’s one topic to use when flirting, that of tting engaged and being in a relationship…
Her: «I work in an office, and I get paid well»
You: «Excellent. I like that in a woman. Want to get engaged? We could buy the ring now. I need a woman with money.»
Her: «OK, that sounds like a plan»
You: «Mind you… do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be looked after… you know, keep an eye on the TV etc.»
Her: «Oh, no… I would not support you.»
You: «Then the engagements off. It’s over between us.»
Her: «You can’t break up with me! I’m not even your girlfriend.»
You: «That’s all the more reason.»
Take a normal conversation topic about her job and her income and redirect the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way hence creating a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting engagement and breaking up over her not supporting you.)
If this doesn’t make sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to practice more. Try it with maybe a waitress, bar maid or fellow worker. When you ask for something and she says «I’m sorry, we don’t have that on the menu», just say
«OK, our relationship isn’t working out… I’m going to have to break up with you.»
In fact, you can say this in just about any situation when a woman is saying something that you don’t like, and it’s funny.
When you communicate like this, you’re flirting and you’re initiating a different kind of communication. And as soon as the woman you’re talking to «engages» you in this kind of dialogue, the let the games begin! There are many ways to flirt, if a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same… only exaggerate it.
Remember, women can tell straight away whether you’re flirting with them or not. If you are, and you’re doing it in a subtle and charming way then you’ll get amazing results.
Exploit any situation with a witty quip, be natural and say what comes into your head. How many times do you think «I wish I had said that!» or «Why didn’t I think of that when I needed to?» Relax, and use your natural charm, which will flow out with practice and confidence.
Use innuendo, which is a subtle form of naughty talk, that can be taken both ways. If your quip gets a response, raised eyebrows, just look back with doe eyes and say «What?», expressing total innocence and then break into a cheeky grin.
Something like «I wish I could get my hands on a pair of those» in a situation when there is, say a pair of something innocent, like nice shoes, yet the phrase also implies you would like to fondle the girl’s breasts – see what I mean? Try it, it will work, best of luck! Best Wishes, Dateblogger